tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37070024.post4757491933663195364..comments2023-10-31T15:39:09.651+01:00Comments on box elder: Deferred. Shine and glow.Lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09764296105901909328noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37070024.post-52977468287009473202009-12-04T23:27:37.638+01:002009-12-04T23:27:37.638+01:00depends really.
When we eat crabs we always save t...depends really.<br />When we eat crabs we always save the big claws till last...but maybe that is just ritual, otherwise jj maintains he is such a good cook that everything tastes equally good, so it gets eaten at the same time. Balance is everything isnt it?Rosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12211663940952195703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37070024.post-47415472690128872009-12-03T20:20:43.156+01:002009-12-03T20:20:43.156+01:00I love this title -- it is like a tiny poem. The t...I love this title -- it is like a tiny poem. The thoughts are worthy and the pudding, esp. the dewy clover is a treat. <br /><br />I used to save the best for last on my plate. And I used to procrastinate terribly. I still do if given the chance but caring for two kids has knocked some of it out of me.Nimblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16426446791363667887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37070024.post-23772558452405742752009-11-30T08:05:29.500+01:002009-11-30T08:05:29.500+01:00Thanks for reading!
Z - yes, I think it is a ques...Thanks for reading!<br /><br />Z - yes, I think it is a question of personality, though training can adapt it a bit. Tom remarked that quite simply one leaed the nicest bit of food till last because it's always good to finish you meal on a high. I think I wanted to express what you say about not creating the chore in the mind, how ideally it is simply the next thing to be done, that the successful people don't waste time distinguishing between things in that way. The problem of guilty procrastination I find is that often I dither, doing what CS Lewis described as doing 'neither what I like nor what I should'. Better to choose more positively, and get on with one or the other. <br />Then you have more will and energy anyway.<br /><br />RB - I sort of know what you mean about deadlines. Similarly, though I put my homework off, I think when I got into it I often gave it quite a lot of careful thought; dashing through it straight after school simply wouldn't have worked for me, I'd have dithered and not concentrated knowing I had bags of time in front of me. I think I tend to thoroughness in some ways rather than efficiency, or perhaps neither! You say you do the things you like best first etc, but you've certainly not been an unsuccessful person, and have achieved plenty. There's also the sense that if you're doing something you find a bore,and the nice thing is nagging at you and distracting you, it impairs your functioning at the other task...<br /><br />BB - Jaffa cakes! Chip off the chocolate, then eat the sponge, having peeled off the disc of orange jelly which you eat at the end. I really hadn't thought about the matter of the hereafter, but of course there is that. I think even in the most rational who have dispensed with religion, the ironic 'you'll get your reward in heaven' carries a ghost of a hope. But it always presupposes thst being good and being happy are mutually exclusive, and that to be deliberately miserable and self-mortifying is to be virtuous. There are plenty of reasons here on earth why self-indulgence isn't always a good idea, though. <br /><br />GJ - hmm, that's always difficult isn't it? Oddly though, however full one feels, the dessert can seem to find a crack or two to fit into! More seriously though, the whole idea is affected by the fact that we are not always certain what the best things really are; our notion that the meat is perhaps the best, for example, is internalised from being told that it is the most important part that will do us most good; most kids really prefer carbs. I think I still do. Also, as I tried to say, my idea of the agreeable tends to be the thing that outside pressures aren't requiring me to do. I hope you enjoyed every mouthful anyway!<br /><br />Isabelle - you make sure you do enjoy it! Glad you went for the chocolate though.<br /><br />R - ah bu now your waiting is determined by outside factors. This kind of anticipation is the best. Thank you for reading the dailies, relief all round and plenty of things I must knuckle down to now...Lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09764296105901909328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37070024.post-30425334432054698022009-11-30T02:09:49.915+01:002009-11-30T02:09:49.915+01:00Today was bottling day. The Schwarzbier is cozily ...Today was bottling day. The Schwarzbier is cozily carbonating in the glass flasks and I am in a state of deferred gratification. Four weeks at minimum. The longer I can wait, the better the brew will taste. Unless I wait too long. It's all about timing. And that's how I tend to be in the everyday, too. Folks tell me I'm a Libra through and through - no extremes. Everyday I strive for balance - some work, some pleasure, some food I love to eat and some that's just healthy. I would rather take my vacation days now than save them for cashing in when I retire. I go to the gym, but not every day (just enough to keep from getting a beer belly). You, sweet Lucy, put your best work here on Box Elder, and I am so happy that you don't squirrel it away and save it for last. Lately you have been posting daily, which means no deferred gratification is necessary. But when you do return to your more leisurely schedule, your posts will be worth waiting for.Rouchswalwehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01393987883437907945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37070024.post-40727254124802017702009-11-30T01:10:51.443+01:002009-11-30T01:10:51.443+01:00I've definitely spent my life deferring gratif...I've definitely spent my life deferring gratification. I just hope I enjoy it when it eventually comes.<br /><br />This hasn't applied to chocolate so much, though.Pam https://www.blogger.com/profile/12641269043817163165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37070024.post-25391429982326995182009-11-29T21:05:29.841+01:002009-11-29T21:05:29.841+01:00Saving the best for the last fails miserably with ...Saving the best for the last fails miserably with a feast, such as I enjoyed on Thanksgiving. Which is the best -- the turkey and yams or the pumpkin pie? Nowhere did you discuss such this quandry -- should I eat my fill of a delicious main course, saving my desert for later ... or should I be moderate in all things.Granny Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07302978680897139954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37070024.post-85538498695000611712009-11-29T18:48:08.648+01:002009-11-29T18:48:08.648+01:00My education began when I left school and started ...My education began when I left school and started as a tea-boy in the sub-editor's room at Bradford's "Telegraph and Argus". A typical educational impulse occurred when the deputy chief sub-editor watched me for a moment then said: "You have, one might say, a way with pork pies." As a great postponer of the best bits I was carrying this practice to its extreme by nibbling off the folded bits of pastry round the top edge, then the walls of the pie and finally transmitting the remaining small grey mound down my guzzard.<br /><br />I read your piece with great intensity since it touched on an aspect of my personality which I thought was probably shameful. I see I am not alone. However I was enormously relieved to find you stopping short of the ultimate act of postponement - living miserably in the belief that the rewarding grey mound will arrive post-mortem. A future post, perhaps?Roderick Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16828395545197001637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37070024.post-90479435271524081892009-11-29T17:39:20.310+01:002009-11-29T17:39:20.310+01:00People often assume with regard to my children tha...People often assume with regard to my children that it is their birth order which contributes to their habits. But they have always been like that since they were tiny and could feed themselves. Strange really because in many ways the behaviour does not fit that well with their characters and behaviours. <br /><br />I am a last minute type person - I write best and function best when I have a tight deadline to work to. It's almost as if I need that to stop myself from being distracted - it's like putting on blinkers. <br /><br />I don't with-hold pleasures from myself though - I am very much of the opinion that life is too short for that. So I tend to do the things I want to do before chores and eat the things I like best first.Reluctant Bloggernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37070024.post-67178509861900783262009-11-29T17:22:12.233+01:002009-11-29T17:22:12.233+01:00You've got me thinking. One thought is that o...You've got me thinking. One thought is that of the three children who express the three approaches. I think it's hardwired into us, although we can change to a degree. So, maybe as a society, we need all three. <br />It's always a matter of doing the job in front of us, and not allowing how we feel about it beforehand to even come up, lest it get in our way. Not creating unpleasant chores in our mind.Zhoenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03515663141425057088noreply@blogger.com